Marriage of Alfred Peterson and Hilda Larson In Stillwater, Mn. Thank you you freaky deaky micro fiche-ing Mormons.
I wouldn’t go so far to claim young people in pre 1900 rural farm hamlet Sweden never married for romantic love. But I wouldn’t guess it was really romantic love very often, such that I understand the prevailing anthropology. I’d guess it was more like… croft hamlet boy and girl are roughly the same age. They reach adulthood. Their families know each other. Circumstances allow for the now young man to take on a plot of farm land, which moves the young woman to accept a marriage proposal. Such that these pairings would have their own inevitability based on available suitors and family dynamics, I think it’s also right to understand in Sweden at that time a woman had leeway to decline if she didnt like a man. But then there was also an incentive to accept to get into a marriage household rather than live at her parent’s or work as a servant in someone else’s. So the women were inclined to accept, and this is the way marriages happened. Soft match making. A soft arranged marriage system.
Enter, slow rolling land crisis in rural Sweden 1850-1900. Some diseases were nipped, more children made it to adulthood, and family farms had been split so many times for hereditary handoffs that it was uniformly impossible to give a for example 20 yo man a plot big enough to sustain a living for a family.
Swedish young people went to North America to work. Do a genealogy project where you are in the deets, you will find they were overwhelmingly single, the men and the women. Re the women, that there were so many that came single and unattached is I think counterintuitive to reflexive thinking on let’s call it “individual autonomy by gender” of those times.
They’re in America now, those Swedish twenty-somethings, and single. If they didn’t go to America to farm / homestead or in anticipation of marrying a farmer, how do they do household formation? How do they pair bond? How do they do the thing?
Oh I’m sure there was a local social calendar for every ethnic immigrant type, and you didn’t miss that opportunity to mingle amongst. But also…
My great great grandparents Alfred and Hilda there…. Alfred came to Bayport in 1888 having followed his first cousins the Svendsens to work as a laborer at the Tozer Sawmill. His first cousins probably knew the guy that hired them, Charles Johnson, from home. Alfred and his cousins the Svendsens were from Troxhult and Johnson was from Binarretorp. These are villages about 5 miles apart.
Johnson had been working at the sawmill since 1873. He married and started a family, but his first wife died 1886. Siblings Amanda and Bonde Larson arrive in Bayport that year. They are from Hastmahult, merely 2 miles away from where Johnson had been from. The origin families had to know each other and the Larson’s were no doubt in Bayport for work as result of the overseas mail chain, with previous arrivals writing back “there’s laborer and domestic work here, it’s good.”
Amanda Larson ends up marrying the widow Charles Johnson in 1887. He’s 36, she’s 23.
Johnson in the late 1880’s puts up a good sized house and then also probably a boarding house right next to it (539 and 555 2nd St. N. now, still standing) a street away from the riverfront in town. Charles and Amanda (Larson) Johnson by 1888 are raising 5 kids. They invite Amanda’s sister Hilda to come from Sweden and live with them, and probably (I speculate…) be their domestic. She’s there by fall of 1889. My great great grandfather is boarding next door in the other house. Alfred is 24, Hilda is 23. They didn’t know each other before, though there were only a few miles and couple degrees of separation between their families back home.
Alfred and Hilda in 1890 may well have dated in some fashion that resembled a formal courtship. Went on walks after Sunday church, read poetry in the parlor, who knows. They all could read, yes. But they were laborers. What I’d bet is a woman in Bayport the lumber town would have got invited to have a beer around the evening fire. What provoked their marriage is, they conceived a child, who was then born in August after the April wedding. I find that so sweet, that they got to have organic electrifying romance in America as young people where that would not have happened at home on the farm(s).
After that a lotta stuff happened with a lot of people… and Alfred and Hilda didn’t get to stay together because Hilda died!…. and skip to the end, my mom and dad met. It’s a cosmically fascinating thing that you’re born to who you are born to when you are born to them.